Friday, January 12, 2018

Chauvinistic pig ideas

I saw a meme the other day. It had a picture of laundry, dishes, cleaning products, and food on the stove. It had the caption: Things a man shouldn't touch if he has a woman.

sigh.

I went on a rant in the comments. I usually hold my breathe, but on some topics I just can't. Other women were mad too. Which got the responses: This got them fired up, Looks like these women need a man who brings home the bacon, and I knew it would get this kind of response.

ugh.

So I got heated and stated this:
If he cant touch those things with me, he cant touch my vag. He wanna be a dick and not help around our house, that we both contribute financially and by making messes, than he can only touch his dick to get off. I won't touch it. My sons will help with all of this shit too. Chauvinistic pig ideas need to stay in the past.

I know, not my best writing.

Which my response even frustrated me.
The thing is, I do most of these things. I primarily cook, clean, and do laundry. I didn't brag that though. I didn't want to feel I had to brag for these outdated ideas. Then it's just kinda wrong.

See, in my house nothing is expected. If my boyfriend comes home and the cleaning isn't done, or I haven't cooked, he understands I didn't feel like it and suggests going out to eat. That means a ton to me.
I don't expect him to do anything either.
So I feel that we appreciate each other for everything more.
If I cook dinner, he thanks me. I like to bring him his plate to show my love. Since its not expected, I can show my love that way.
I appreciate every time he does the dishes, straightens up, or takes out the trash.
He appreciates when the laundry is done or floors are vacuumed.

This is an equal partnership. We both mutually respect each other enough to understand when we dont feel like it, and when the other would love help, we both contribute to our home equally.

I feel that no expectation and greater appreciation makes my relationship really work.

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